You find out someone has been talking behind your back.
It is never a good idea to talk about someone behind their back, because somehow-someway it will get back to them.
Recently this happened to me. It hurts! Finding out someone has a negative opinion of you can be devastating. When this happens to you, you have a few options.
1. Decide if it matters to you what they think.
To help you decide:
How do other people (people you respect) view that person?
Do they have the same standards I do?
Why do you think they chose you to talk about?
Is there any truth to what they said?
When you decide that you do value that person's opinion, that is when you should confront the situation.
If you do not value the person's opinion, let it go. (cue Frozen sing along)
Proverbs 26:4- "Do not answer the stupid one according to his foolishness, so that you do not put yourself on his level."
2. Prove them wrong.
Whether or not you value that person's opinion, all you can do is your best. Be the best person you can be, and prove them wrong. All I can do is show the world who I really am.
Do you have any strategies when dealing with bad mouthers?